Changing Our Goals Everyday: An Exercise in Daily Personal Evolution
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Clay
The art of progress is to preserve order amid change and to preserve change amid order.
-Alfred North Whitehead
Good goals are living breathing statements of who we are becoming, they should not be static and rigid representations of what we once longed for. Still, many of us have had the experience of writing down goals, only to feel alienated from them weeks later, as if they were a historical document from the past.
Goals do not have a life apart from us, and when are separated from them for too long, they no longer apply because we have grown and they have not.
On the flip side, many of us have obsessed over our goals, looking over them constantly until we’ve habituated and they cease to inspire us; like a moving song listened to over and over again, goals reread incessantly lose their impact.
Our authentic desires, and thus our authentic goals, are like children waiting to grow up; they require contact, maintenance, and constant feeding to thrive. It is not enough to read our goals frequently and be reminded of them, we must breathe new life into our goals every time we touch them, they must constantly be brought out of the past and into the present, or they will slowly die.
The solution is to examine our goals every day and modify at least one goal with each read.
Whether adding a detail here or removing a comma there, the daily maintenance of goals helps insure that they remain fluid, dynamic, adaptable and relevant to our hopes, dreams, and aspirations. If done correctly, changing your goals every day doesn’t result in wishy-washiness — it results in daily evolution of the visions we hold for the future.
The benefits of changing/growing our goals each day:
- Every time we change or modify our goals we are taking ownership of them again.
- By changing our goals every day we stay connected to them.
- The creative energy that gets behind us when we slightly re-invent our goals is beautiful, lifting us up each day and helping us to re-envision our lives.
- We are slowly, imperceptibly, growing each day, developing into wiser, more authentic beings. Growing our goals each day helps ensure that our goals stay consistent with this growth.
- Growing our goals each day forces us to continually reexamine our wants.
Tips for Daily Goal Growth
- If you feel a goal no longer speaks to you, then remove it
- Do not ever change a goal purely for the sake of change, strive to make the goals truly better. If you have nothing to change, then change the order of your goals to reflect prioritization.
- Consider rewording a goal, or rephrasing it with a different emphasis.
- Add a detail. For example, if you know you want to work for yourself, you might expand your goal to include self-employment from home. If you want to save for a child’s education, you might elaborate by stating exactly how much you would like to save. If you want more time alone, you might elaborate by stating that you want time alone for meditation. You get the picture.
One good way to do ensure that you constantly update your goals is to make goal maintenance part of your morning routine. You might want to consider growing your goals each morning after getting up and eating breakfast.
Good luck to you!
~Clay
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The art of progress is to preserve order amid change and to preserve change amid order.



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Laurie said,
Wrote on February 17, 2008 @ 8:18 pm
This is a great one and one that really speaks to me right now. I love the idea of “growing” our goals– it’s obviously good to persevere and not just wishy-washily change our focus because things get too hard, but it’s also really easy to lose touch with our goals over time. I love the way you described that and I think it’s something that people don’t talk much about. I’ll have to experiment with this and see if it works for me, though– every day sounds like a lot! I’d worry that I might be tempted to add things that aren’t that important to me, making the goal less realistic or less honest. Do you struggle with that?
Clay Collins said,
Wrote on February 17, 2008 @ 8:41 pm
@Laurie: So, regarding this:
“I’d worry that I might be tempted to add things that aren’t that important to me, making the goal less realistic or less honest.”
These are the very reasons why I wanted to revise my goals every day. Do you know how Digg works? It’s kind of like that. The goals (or elements of goals) that can stand my daily scrutiny get to stay and the ones that don’t feel authentic get cut. The goals have to stand the test of time.
As for being unrealistic, I think it’s ok. If I have an unrealistic goal that says for a week or a month, and that seems to resonate with me every day, then I keep it, hold it in my mind, and try to think about how to make it real. About two months ago having a lifestyle where I didn’t have to physically be anywhere, where I had unlimited mobility, seemed really unrealistic. But that’s my reality now.
What got me thinking about this was the section on “dreamlining” in Timothy Ferriss’s book, the Four Hour Work Week.
I’m really jazzed that you liked the post :-).
Laurie said,
Wrote on February 17, 2008 @ 10:47 pm
Ok, it just clicked when you used the Digg analogy! Now I get it. So one day I might add something silly that I don’t really care about, but if I TRULY don’t care about it, then it won’t stay on my goals list for long. I think you’re totally right on about that!
I’ve thought about this a bunch with regard to my “mission statement”. For awhile I felt chained to parts of it even if when they didn’t always resonate with me, but I recently realized that it’s actually OK to make changes to it. The parts that really matter will continue to matter and I’ll continue to use them as a guidepost in my daily decisions.